Mourning in the 1800s wasn’t just a feeling. It was a lifestyle. An entire etiquette system existed around death: how long you should grieve, what you should wear, where you could go, and even how to behave on your front porch. Here are 8 mourning customs from the Victorian era that we’re (mostly) glad have faded with time — and a few that still hold a kernel of meaning in how we grieve today.