Mourning in the 1800s wasn’t just a feeling. It was a lifestyle. An entire etiquette system existed around death: how long you should grieve, what you should wear, where you could go, and even how to behave on your front porch. Here are 8 mourning customs from the Victorian era that we’re (mostly) glad have faded with time — and a few that still hold a kernel of meaning in how we grieve today.

Obituaries are often quiet, respectful, and solemn — but some are downright hilarious. At Wildflower Funeral Concepts, we believe death can be tender and funny. Serious and joyful. Here are nine obituaries that prove you don’t have to lose your sense of humor just because you’ve left the buildin